Love that heals

Got up early in the morning for Sunday Service. Got to reach church at 8am for musical instruments set up as well as practice. We just shifted from a rented place in Woodlands point to Cathy Movie theatre at Causaeway point. Never imagine there could be church service in cinema. Out of my surprise actually there are 3 church services conducting in the morning.
The speaker was Bro Hong, a very gifted and blessed speaker. The topic he shared today is Love that heals.

He shared a true story with us first: A young lady who had a very miserable childhood just got married. When she was 6 years old, her mother was suffering from serious mental illness. Her father eventually decided to leave the family as he could stand his wife any longer. On the day her dad moving out, the little girl was dragging her father's leg trying very best to beg him to stay. The father pulling the poor little girl for almost 10m and left with a hurtful sentence:” I am out of here." From then on, this 6 yr old had to play a role like parents, to take care of her two younger siblings. This incident forced her to mature fast. Thank God that she was strong, took good care of her mom and younger bro and sister. And God blessed her with a nice caring guy. They got married recently.
This young wife was cooking dinner for the husband one day. She was preparing a dish which this young dude dislikes since young. Yet in order not too disappointed her he still managed to finish it all. She was happily asked him:” since you like it, here is another plate for you." This guys couldn't take it any more, he stood up and said:" I am out of here(which he meant the dining room)."
However, these words stirred up the unpleasant memories of the young wife whose father left with the same words. She could not control herself but letting out tears and shivering helplessly. When the husband saw her reaction he was thinking" goodness, she was exactly like her mom."

However, we knew that it's because of her bitterness and hurt caused her to react like that.

There are many problems we faced in our life, like lost of family members, extramarital affair, divorce, long term abuse, parents ignorance...... these factors will have great impact in our life.
A kid grows up in this kind of family or background may have problem later in his life:

~over sensitive
~perfectionism (yes, scared of failure )
~low self esteem
~afraid of commitment
~afraid of rejection
~bitterness
~resentment
~unforgiveness

The hurt , the wound is not healed properly, this wound will continue to hurt even more deeply and starts to rotten. It will be still hurtful whenever you touch it. A properly healed wound will leave a scar, still can be seen, but no pain, no hurt and touchable. Christian always says forgive and forget. But I do believe it's OK to forgive, and even give blessings. But with the scar I will never forget. But It cause no issues as it won't hurt any longer. It is just a reminder of passed issues, good or bad.

A few verses I wanna share
"Knowledge puffs up, but love edifies" - 1Cor 8:1
Many times we are over confident of our abilities for we do not know what we have actually are blessings. We gonna humble ourselves and love others.
Faith, hope and love. The greatest is LOVE.

"Hatred stirs up fights, but love covers all sins." - Pro 10:12

"There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear." - 1 John 4:18

At times we react or respond to certain situations in the way of fear losing something. We scolded children for fearing them picking up bad habits or not learning good things. We quarreled with boyfriend for fearing of losing him. ...It will be such a horror of living everyday in fear. Instead, love your children, let them know you love them and care for them. Tell your boyfriend that you love him and want him to be happy. Tell your parents you love them you will surprisely realise your stubborn father can be quite humorous. Love will soften bitter hearts and heal wounds.

Everyone has struggles in life, big or small. The important thing is our attitude towards them. ^^or ><

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast. Love your family, your loved ones, your friends even your enemy. You will realise that love is much easier than hatred.